Removing Resistance
Life is like a box of Lucky Charms. You can grab a handful out of the box without looking, and then rejoice or complain about what you got. Or you can simply look inside the box and pick out all the marshmallows.
You know what you want. That’s the crazy part. You know exactly what you want.
The issue is you aren’t choosing what you want.
We convince ourselves that we are being reasonable, because we can’t have what we want even if we tried. So we choose wrong.
The problem is, when we choose wrong, we are sabotaging ourselves. The wrong choice makes us unhappy. This is why we tend to “double down” on bad decisions. We create logical fallacies that create a domino of decisions that take us down the wrong road.
I’m already doing x, why not do y? We do this so that we don’t have to admit to ourselves that we fucked up.
We slowly accept that feeling bad, or behaving bad, is our new normal, to further and further extremes.
For example, if you really love someone and you think they are too good for you, you might cheat on them. Now that you have done this, it doesn’t matter how much they love you or are devoted to you, because you’re a cheater and you don’t deserve them. This is strangely freeing for the insecure lover. They don’t need to worry about the person being faithful, and they can continue lying, cheating, being shady.
Not only did you lose love, you lost self-respect. There’s no winning with this kind of thinking. You are playing to lose.
For this reason, it is imperative to have guiding morals in your life. Morals remind us, not what is wrong (for we are already knowing this in our hearts) but rather where our North Star is. They help to prevent us compounding mistakes and getting waaay off-track from our destined path. Morals help us define ourselves as good people. And good people want to do good.
When we have a solid moral compass, if we perform an act that is not in alignment with those honorable intentions, we quickly repent and correct our trajectory. We are an honorable person, that was just a bad call.
Versus when we lack the moral compass, we start associating ourselves with the bad act. The bad act is no longer a mistake, it is how we define ourselves. Which enables us to go on and make even more of the same bad decisions.
Repentance is the only way to prevent the cascade of bad decisions. “I won’t feel the pain if I numb myself with an even worse decision.” The longer you prevent coming to terms with your mistake, the worse the pain (and the consequences) will be in the end.
You must understand that you have always have a choice, and you must have the confidence to choose what you really want. You can have everything you want, and you are capable of being anything you desire.
Only then can you refrain from self-sabotage.
One part of this is writing down what it is you want, and who you want to be. But the more important part is coming to terms with all of the internal resistance you feel toward those desires.
The Art of Polarity
Every emotion has a frequency. Low-vibrational emotions pull you away from your destiny, your highest version of self. While high-vibrational emotions help us to attain exactly what we want in life.
We can’t avoid or opt out of feeling anger, shame, disgust. Emotions occur without our consent, every event will create emotions within us.
However, there is a loophole. And that loophole is polarity. Every low-vibrational emotion has an equal and opposite high-vibrational emotion.
Any time you feel a negative/low-vibrational emotion, whether it’s regret or self-doubt or anger - you actually have an opportunity to ‘jump’ to that emotion’s polar opposite high-frequency sister.
This is the art of polarity - we can choose where we want to go once we understand the rules.
Let’s start with fear. Let’s say you want to have a lovely dinner at your favorite restaurant, but you don’t have anyone to go with. Your fear pipes up and tells you that you can’t go to a restaurant and eat alone because it will be humiliating.
You see the emotion and categorize it as fear of humiliation or approval. You see the thought, and you understand it is trying to protect you. Categorizing the emotion and understanding what it’s purpose is has always been a strong tool in the art of mental control.
You decide to use this as an opportunity to replace the fear with bravery and courage. You get in the car, you get to the restaurant. There are moments where you have the option to “chicken out” but you will notice that every time you DON’T chicken out, you feel more power within you. The more you refuse to let fear overcome you, the more courageous you feel.
Eventually, you simply refuse the fear, and do what you want. The more you exercise this “leap” the more you will make it a habit.
This is just one small example, with just one emotion. How much of your life would change if you did this across the board? Imagine all the negative emotions you feel on a daily basis. Imagine if you could change them all?
Freedom of Choice
You may ask, why can’t you wallow in your shame?
Why can’t I just let myself feel bad?
Freedom of choice enables us to control our destiny instead of it being chosen for us by controlling parties.
Otherwise, we are simply sheep like the rest of them. Doing what we are told, and complaining about it.
Remember, the goal is to not fight off our emotions. Always choose to repent for bad decisions, and accept the full weight of the emotions, no matter what it may be. These low-vibrational emotions are not to be feared. They are an amazing opportunity to build yourself up and jump to a far higher frequency than before.
Do not be fooled by those that double down on the negative feelings. These people seem like powerful rebels, but in fact they are the easiest people to control.
